Relationships: 5 Post Valentine's Day Thoughts From A Single Woman

I decided against writing the typical Valentine’s post, but now that Valentine’s Day is well over, I still have some thoughts particularly when it comes to my single sisters in Christ.
After I made a few observations and reflections on this day, I believe single Christian like myself need to be careful and choose not to yield to the subtle advances of this world to conform to its standard of love. Read on!


Thought #1- Christian Single Women Should not be Doing “Wifely” Things- This is something most do not agree with  because most women probably find no harm in cooking for their boyfriend, doing his laundry, going on vacations, picking out his clothes etc… I understand. After all, I admittedly use to cook for my ex all of the time. We even occasionally went on short roadtrips. Rest assured, I’ll never make that mistake again.

I didn’t realize until later this is totally opposite of what we as single women should be concerning ourselves with. I think as single women we should be set apart from what world’s idea of single is. And let me be clear: if you are not married or engaged you are single.  We shouldn’t be trying to assume a role we have not been given. Laundry, cooking, and picking out clothes are what managers of the home do which is the sole responsibility of a wife to her family. We should stop compromising on this!

An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. – 1 Cor 7:34

Though #2- Christian single woman who struggle on this day should guard their heart  and get of social media- A lot of woman can’t seem to be content single. But if you are constantly being exposed with messages about marriage, and even singlehood through social media, then its going to be hard for you to be content.

Stop following blogs about marriage life and stop following women who are constantly hammering messages to you about your singleness. Get off Instagram and get in your word. Ask God what is required of you because contentment is only fulfilled through doing His will!

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.- Prov 4:23

Thought #3- Worldly, Sinful Relationships Should Never be Glorified- I was completely horrified when I saw a picture of Chris Brown and Rihanna on Instagram with the tag “Love Conquors all.” Sinful relationships should not be glorified or praised in any way, shape, or form. We should stop accepting sin by encouraging our friends’ relationships who unapologetically shack up and fornicate.

Instead, take this time to appreciate the Godly marriages around you (if you know any, they are rare these days). After all, a real Godly marriage is a direct reflection of Christ and His Church-true love. We could learn something from listening to a Godly married woman speak about her marriage. Christian women should not be  ogling over Chris Brown and Rihanna, Beyonce and Jay-z, or Kayne and Kim.

For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.- John 3:20

Thought #4- Single Christian Women Should Refrain from Adopting the World’s Idea of Love- It would be great if single Christians used this day to celebrate and show Love the way we are suppose to.  On Valentine’s day, I saw many Christian single women with boyfriends showing pictures of the dinner they made for their boyfriend which tells me they’re playing a role they have not been given yet- wife.

I think single woman should use Valentine’s day to show the love of Christ in ways only a committed to Christ single woman can. Showing the sacrificial love of Christ to those who need it most would have been perfect to shed light on the true meaning of love. Instead we cheapen and reduce it to what the world says is love- candy, teddy bears, and chocolate. Love is the first fruit of the spirit, and it is so much more than going on a date with your boyfriend.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.- 1 Cor 13:4-7

Thought #5- Single Christian Woman Should be known for their good works, not how Great of a Boyfriend they Have. There is a problem when women are coming to you asking about your relationship with your boyfriend more than your relationship with God. But what do you lift up more? We live in the social media age where people like to show off. Use it to show off Christ more than you use it to show off your relationship. Especially on Valentine’s day.

In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven. – Matthew 5:16

Let us be set apart. If this “holiday” is suppose to be all about love, why not show the real love of Christ instead of adapting the world’s idea of Valentine’s day by spending it moping around because we don’t have a partner, or spending it trying to make sure we measure up to what Valentine’s day is suppose to be.






Source: God Confidence